A Major Milestone!

Jayden was down to just a few diapers. I told Esteban and he said he would go in the morning to pick up a box. Morning came and Esteban put Jayden’s final diaper on. I reminded him to go to the store to get diapers, but he was still tired and crawled back into bed. Not even 10 minutes later, Jayden came to me and said ca-ca. Oh-no. Please don’t go poop. I am completely out of diapers. I go back to the room to wake Esteban and he rushes off to Wal-Mart.

Jayden continued saying ca-ca. We went to the bathroom and I removed his diaper. I sat down on the toilet and told him to sit in his potty chair. He sat down but got up again saying ca-ca. I know, poor boy. He has to go and is probably mortified that he doesn’t have his diaper on. The phone rings and he rushes out of the bathroom. Oh no. I quickly finish up on the phone and go back to the bathroom with Jayden.

I sat down and he sat down. Guess what he said? Ca-ca! He was about to get up when all of a sudden, he does the deed and quickly resumes his position on the potty chair. I reassured him that it was ok. As soon as he was done, he shot up and looked at the potty and said ca-ca. I know, I know. It’s ok. Look. I take the inner potty and dump the contents in the toilet bowl. This makes him happy because he now gets to flush the toilet, which to him is one of life’s greatest pleasures.

I tell you I was thrilled. I was full of praises for Jayden. What a good boy! A big boy! Yeah Jayden! I whisked him away to his room for a clean-up and put his old diaper on in the meanwhile. I called Daddy to inform him of Jayden’s accomplishments. While I have been feeling like a failure in the nursing department, this was clearly a victory in potty training. Of course, Jayden went poop in diaper two times afterwards without telling me first, but that’s ok. I understand that this is the beginning in the long process of potty training. My little boy is growing up.

To Nurse or Bottle-Feed? That is the Question.

I successfully got Maya back to nursing and was quite pleased with myself, but I was anxious to see what I would find the following week. I was pleasantly surprised to find no problems at all on Wednesday. I was so excited. Maybe she gets it. Maybe she is beginning to learn the difference. Relief! Thursday and Friday came and went with no problems whatsoever. Fantastic! Maybe she was starting to get the hang of the differences. I’m so glad that was over. I wasn’t ready to stop nursing. I love that special time I have with her and even though sometimes I feel restricted by her nursing schedule, I am not ready to give it up and go to bottles.

Two days after her last bottle feeding on Sunday, she started to fight me again. At first it wasn’t too bad, but as the days went by, our nursing sessions started to get progressively worse. Yesterday was the worse day yet. In the morning, she gave me a hard time with her feeding day and cried for about 10 – 15 minutes. I did not give in. Instead, I switched her from left to right and vice versa and when that didn’t work, I tried to manually express in the hopes that it would entice her to latch on. Finally, she settled down and fell asleep. Then, at her evening feeding, she would not latch at all and screamed for 30 minutes. I felt so bad for her. She was probably wondering why there was no milk for her. Then I felt bad for Jayden who was just running around being his usual self and getting into a whole lot of trouble. Poor guy didn’t understand why Mommy was so mad. He looked afraid at one point so I stopped trying to nurse Maya and just carried her until she stopped crying and fell asleep.

I had some time to think while she was napping and clear my head. By the time she woke up, I was sure I wasn’t going to give in and give her a bottle. Instead, I mixed up some cereal and attempted to give it to her. At first, she just smiled and cooed. She spit out most of everything I put in but she was entertained and that was all that seemed to matter. (I should have gotten a picture of this. Shame on me.) Poor Jayden sat down right next to me waiting for his turn for a bite. He leaned his face forward, raised his eyebrows and slightly parted his lips. All I could do was laugh. Well, Maya got bored really fast and started to fuss, until finally she started to cry. At this point, I put Jayden down for the night and focused all my energy on relaxing and feeding Maya. Even though she fought it, she still nursed enough to satisfy herself and fell asleep. Thank you God.

I have so much more luck getting her to nurse when I’m not distracted by Jayden. It’s not his fault though. I get stressed out pretty quickly. It’s frustrating when I finally get Maya to latch on and Jayden squeals over a toy or something he’s seen on TV and Maya is startled, loses her latch and then it’s back to crying again. I called a lactation consultant and I’m waiting to hear back from her today. I am praying there’s something I can do to postpone the inevitable.

The Two-Day Play Date

I just got back from my first road trip alone with the kids. My girlfriend, Beth, lives down in Coral Springs and she and I have been doing girls weekend for as long as I can remember. We have great meals, relax by the pool, and snack in front of the TV. How can I resist? I packed us up, which was no easy feat. When you travel with children, you end up taking everything you possibly can. Somehow, we squeezed in my suitcase, play pen, stroller, swing, bouncer seat, baby carrier, breast pump, baby bag, Jayden’s toy bag, my purse, nursing pillow and a cooler into my tiny Toyota Corolla. (Getting a mini-van is starting to sound like a good idea.)

I decided to wait until Esteban left for work to go so that he can spend time with the kids and the timing couldn’t have been better. I fed Maya and left right at the time I would normally put Jayden down for a nap. I didn’t have to stop once! It was great. Jayden slept for an hour, woke up for 30 minutes and slept for 45 more. He didn’t get fussy at all. And Maya slept the entire ride. She woke up as I exited the turnpike and started to cry just when I turned on to my girlfriend’s street.

We got there Sunday night and had a nice dinner at home. Jayden had a rough time falling asleep and although I originally brought the playpen for Maya, I decided to put him in it instead. He was a little tight in there, but at least he wasn’t wondering around the house fighting sleep like he usually does. At home, I use the baby gate to keep him in his room, but I didn’t have that. (Could I have squeezed that into my car too? Never mind.)

Monday, we had a nice lazy day by the pool. I don't know how it was possible, but I forgot my camera home, but here is a picture I managed to get with my phone.It felt so great not to rush from one place to the other to get things done. No keeping kids quiet so Daddy can get his rest. No making breakfast, no cleaning kitchen, no folding laundry, no picking up toys and food off the floor and no chasing after Rio to eat and do his business outside with the potential of being locked out of my home by my two year old son. I actually had time to drink three cups of coffee without stopping to reheat the cup 3 or 4 times. We went out for dinner and went home for TV and chit chat. It was so great to have someone entertain Jayden for a change. He loved spending time with Beth’s daughter, Sinclaire. They played in the pool, on the trampoline, on the swings, in her play kitchen, with cars and trucks and Barbie and Ken. Do kids ever get tired?

Tuesday, we went to the zoo. This was Jayden’s first time at the zoo. It was pretty hot out so I didn’t stay very long. We did walk around some and Jayden was entertained by the otters, monkeys, birds and ducks. He loved walking around on his own and so did I. I was able to move Maya from the baby carrier into the stroller. We packed a lunch and had it there and afterwards we headed to the entrance. They had a huge interactive water fountain and we let the kids run around and cool off. Jayden loved the fountain and wanted me to stay with him, but I couldn't with Maya so he didn't play very long. He didn't seem bothered by that. I think he was tired. It was close to nap time. I gave him a snack and fed Maya and hit the road.

The drive back was even better. No traffic or rain. Jayden slept even longer on the way home and Maya slept the entire way. She even stayed nice and calm while I unpacked the car and fixed Jayden’s dinner. It was so great to get away and relax. I loved spending time with my girlfriend and her daughter. The weather was awesome too. Even the kids seemed easier to handle while I was away. Nothing like recharging the batteries.

Nursing Challenges

This was my third week back to work and so far things have been going great. I have a decent routine down for pumping at work. I’m starting to get my 12 ounces consistently. And Maya seemed to have adjusted very well, until this week. On Wednesday, things went as usual. She had her three bottles at the sitters and came home where I nursed her. On Thursday however, she did not want to nurse. She wasn’t latching on even though she was hungry and I was ready to feed her. I noticed that she was trying to suck as if I were the bottle and she wasn’t getting any milk that way, which led to screaming baby! After struggling with her for an hour, I got her to finally fall asleep in the swing with her paci. At her next feeding, she was fine. I was so happy. I am not ready for her to stop nursing. I love this time together.

On Friday, I ran into the same challenge. Except this time, she wouldn’t nurse. I refused to give in. We struggled together for 6 feedings and finally on Saturday at noon, she nursed without fighting me on it. I am really panicking now. I am home with her for four days. Will I be going through this each week? Is she going to hold out longer and longer each time? There has to be a way to nurse and bottle-feed. Don’t people do it all the time? I want her to learn that when she feeds with her sitter or with daddy, she takes the bottle and when she is with me, she will feed from the breast. Is that even possible?

Adventures in Couponing

I have two friends who are so into couponing that I’ve been inspired to become better at it. I have always clipped coupons but when I get to the store, I forget to use them or I don’t feel like digging through them at the cashier’s register. Also, I don’t think I was leveraging them properly. Plus, I don’t want to end up spending money on things I don’t need just to use a coupon. Anyway, as I spend more time listening to my girlfriend Maria and reading about Cindy’s quest and adventures in couponing, I’ve started to learn more and more. The internet is filled with such valuable information. I found that some people really do their homework when it comes to combining sales circulars with coupons and they share that information with others.

So, I decided to pay CVS a visit yesterday. Thank goodness Maria’s ride home crossed with mine at the exact same time and she stopped into CVS because she really helped me get through what could have been a crazy ordeal. We went through the aisles picking up the good deals. They had Pantene on sale at 3 bottles for $12. I picked up 6 bottles and used two coupons in conjunction for a total of $8 off. Then, I picked up two tubes of paste that I used with two coupons for a total of $1.75 off. I found a box of pantiliners on sale for .99 cents so I picked that up as well. I got to the cashier and presented her with a $4 online coupon from CVS (which I got for updating my profile with my email address). She rang up all my items and took my coupons and my total was $16.97.

As I am walking out with Maria, I can’t but feel like I didn’t really get a good deal. I spent $17 and only received $2 back in extra bucks. As we look at the receipt, we realize that we didn’t receive the extra bucks for the paste so back to the register we go. I had mistakenly gotten the wrong size tube so we had to do a refund. Oh no. What a mess. She refunded the two tubes but needed to put it on my card and my card’s swipe wouldn’t work. Then another cashier came to help and couldn’t get it to work. Before you know it, the manager is involved and I’m starting to sweat. Thank God Maria was there. They finally decide to put the credit back onto a gift card but tell me that I’ll loose my $1.75 in coupons. Why? That doesn’t make sense to me. But I only said this to myself so Maria steps up and demands to know why. The manager never really explained it but says she’s going to apply the discount for us. What a mess.

This morning, I went back to CVS and picked up a box of pantiliners. They weren’t on sale and I didn’t have a coupon but there was a promotion running where you would receive 3.84 back in extra bucks. How can I loose? As I sit down and look over my receipts and calculate spenditures, coupons, and extra bucks I realize that I spent a total of $21.14. I used $13.75 worth of coupons and received 12.50 back in extra bucks that I can use on future purchases. Wow, maybe this couponing really does work. I was so inspired that I bought a newspaper subscription and I can’t wait to start analyzing the sales ads and the coupons. Thanks Cindy and Maria for getting me on track!

What a Scare!

It was a dark and stormy night. No sir. Just kidding. But it was about to pour. I had just let Rio out and decided to check the mail just in case there was anything interesting. I was happy I went because I found some notices from the immigration office. I headed back to the house and find myself face to face with a locked door. Could it be? There’s no way. He doesn’t reach. Or does he? No, I’ve never seen him at the door messing with the lock. But lo and behold, there I am in front of a locked door. I calmly knock on the door and call to Jayden. After a few minutes, I hear the pitter patter of his feet running to the door. I say to him, Jayden, open the door. No response. Jayden, please open the door. I hear fidgeting. I check the door, but it’s still locked. I hear Jayden say oh-no. I’m trying to stay calm, but now I hear Maya crying and I knock again and say Jayden, open the door. I hear the unmistakable sound of fear and frustration in his voice as he’s trying to open the door and cannot. I am about to loose it when all of a sudden he tries again and unlocks it. My initial thoughts are to beat him senseless, but of course I can’t do that. Words can’t express what I felt at that moment. All I could do was cry and tell him to never lock the door again. That was probably pointless since I haven’t taught him the word door or lock. I have been working on open, close, on and off. I just broke down thinking about the what-ifs. What a scare!

On a positive note, the immigration notices turned out to be approval notices. The applications we turned in for my husband’s kids have been accepted and hopefully the kids will receive their visas as a result. I am not sure how much longer the process will take, but even if it does take the estimated 4 or 5 years at least the kids would be able to come and visit us. Maybe they can even come to school here. As of now, the kids are 15, 13, and 10 years old. They are so big now. The oldest, Shanel, just had her Sweet Fifteen party. She was beautiful.

Jayden and Esteban

Do you think they look alike? I was completely flabbergasted when I came across this photo. It's like seeing Jayden in another time and another place.

Esteban - Age 2

Jayden - Age 2